2019

Create Appreciation and Respect in your Relationship

Posted By Elizabeth Pincott,
09/05/2019 11:00 AM
Appreciation and respect can be developed or enhanced in your relationship by avoiding what The Gottman’s call the Four Horsemen. Follow the antidotes below to prevent these horsemen from negatively impacting your relationship. Criticism > Use Gentle Start Up Defensiveness > Take Responsibility Contempt > Describe Your Own Feelings and Needs Stonewalling > Do Physiological Self-Soothing These four horsemen can creep into your relationship and when they do they create...

How to manage conflict in your relationship

Posted By Elizabeth Pincott,
30/04/2019 12:00 PM
Half of all marriages that end do so in the first 7 years. (Gottman, J.M. 1994) The Gottman’s have spent the last 40 years researching what makes a relationship successful and what creates problems and eventually leads to divorce. Conflict in a relationship is a sure way to move your relationship closer towards divorce, especially when conflict is not managed well. Skills to effectively manage conflict include; - Knowing how to actively listen and validate your partners position -...

What is couples therapy?

Posted By Elizabeth Pincott,
09/04/2019 09:00 AM
What is couples therapy? Couples therapy is an opportunity to work on parts of your relationship that are not working well for you, and these parts are often experienced as areas of conflict, negativity or dissatisfaction within your relationship. Couples typically attend couples therapy to work on the following issues; Conflict Poor Communication Affairs Lack of trust Poor commitment Lack of intimacy Negative feelings towards your partner Couples therapy is an opportunity to help...